Is Ego ruining your life?
Who are you? What do people tell you about yourself?
It is about your identity. The image describes you to the environment in which you are part of the environment. Ego is part of our personality which describe how we behave and communicate with others around us. The Latin word for personality is `` persona`` meaning mask. Some believe personality is what you have gained in your life. `` oh, this lady has a strong personality`` when you draw near to him or her and ask him or her why he or she said that. It is because of what she has gained such as money, houses, good job. Honestly, this should not be so.
Personality is all about our traits or qualities. More of this will be found in my new book `` Win You: An introspective Journey of finding yourself, knowing your potentials and harnessing them for greater heights and ultimate success.
Now, let talk about ego, As I said, it is part of our personality. Is your ego running yourself? Ego is all about the holding back of certain initiatives or actions we have to do in our environment. It is part of the realities of life. According to Sigmund Freud, a psychologist, there are three forms of our Personality; Id, Superego and Ego.
We received certain traits from birth, I am talking about the behaviour of ours we derived from our nature at birth that is the Id Personality. An example is a charitable person by birth who gain her trait from birth. Any trait in you developed from birth is part of the Id personality.
The superego is all about the traits, we develop morally in society. We usually develop from our training at home, people who meet, doctrines from a religious family such as a church, mosque, shrine. Anything, we develop morally forms part of the superego traits of our being.
Now, the mighty Ego overcomes the Id and Superego personality, gives us the holding calls not the deliver the needs of id and superego.
Scenarios of how Ego overpower us: -
#1 You live with your family in the family house. Everybody in the family house lives in harmony with each other’s, smiles at each other, communicate with each other people in the family live together as one family, except you. You always frown on your face don’t communicate with others like the rest of the family members. You always have this perception that `` When I am too socially with them, they won’t respect me`` Though, sometimes you need to communicate and converse with them, but your ego draws you back to keep to your promise. As you enter the family compound, you intentionally frown, now it is part of our personality. Face express your ego unintentionally.
#2 People know you as a rich and generous person. If anyone you know needs money, you just give it out willing, you love doing it. You are the first call when people need assistance financially. Due to this, people in your community love respect and honour for what you are. The charitable person. A few months ago, things weren’t going well as they should, so my asset disposed of, money decline. You realise that one of the friends you do usually help is experiencing new improvement in his finance. Positive change has come into his bank safe. You made plans to talk to him to help you, financially. Anytime, you make plans to inform him about it. Your ego holds you back. Always perceive this `` You know you are respected and honoured in this community, how can I ask money from Kwame, he will mock you``. Don’t do it. You are respected `` Truly, you listen to the power of ego and didn’t ask Kwame about the money. Maybe he could have been of help to you.
# 3 You are a young man with a beautiful wife, and two children. Your family adores you very much, but it becomes a sad encounter, anytime you offend your wife, intend to say sorry to her, your refrain back. Your wife has never received an apology for an event of offence between you two. It is your wife who later says it ``honey, I am sorry``. The problem is that you feel reluctant to open your mouth to say it to her. `` I am the man of this house, I don’t need to say sorry to her ``, you often say this in your mind. Ego is holding you back. You will realize this after things are worst or on the urge of worst.
There are a lot of scenarios ego ruins our life. Ego destroys our opportunities and chances in the environment due to the notion of the superiority of our being. Know you are, and when ego comes to play so that you can out power it.
By Brigitte Adofo Agyapong
Management Consultant | Strategy | Brand and Marketing
Author of Win You: An introspective journey of finding yourself, knowing your potentials, and harnessing them for greater heights and ultimate success.
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